The Paradoxical Commandments
by Dr. Kent M. Keith
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.
© Copyright Kent M. Keith 1968, renewed 2001
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
The Paradoxical Commandments
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Thursday, May 27, 2010
- The sun is shining.
- I get to see my DD, DSnL, Repeat and Shortie everyday
- I know my way to and from work without the GPS
- A friend said he is proud of my risky, courageous move
- I spoke with my BFF for over an hour uninterrupted!
- I'm driving to see a friend from school this weekend!
- I worked all day in the garden on Saturday
- I have plants in my office
- The baby will be here soon!
- Repeat included me in his family "flower".
- Shortie tells me about his day.
- I am happy!!
- I am loved!
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
- He who deliberates fully before taking a step will spend his entire life on one leg. - Chinese Proverb
- I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro's great stumbling block in the stride toward freedom is not the White Citizens Councilor or the Ku Klux Klanner but the white moderate who is more devoted to order than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice. - Martin Luther King Jr. (US clergyman and civil rights leader 1929-1968)
- Show me your friend and I will show you your character (in Akan kyereme woadamfo na menkyere wo wosuban.) - Kwaku Boateng
- "Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has." —Margaret Mead
- If you fail to plan , you will plan to fail - Kolawole Kayode
- With the people, for the people, by the people, I crack up when I hear it; I say, with the handful, for the handful, by the handful, 'cause that's what really happens. - Fannie Lou Hamer (U.S. civil rights activist, 1917-1977)
- The love of liberty is the love of others; the love of power is the love of ourselves - Willian Hazlitt (English essayist, 1778-1830)
- If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow. - Chinese Proverb
- We are each other's harvest; we are each other's business; we are each other's magnitude and bond. - Gwendolyn Brooks
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Despite the fact that I have recently moved (actually I'm still unpacking boxes) I watch the garden in front of the house, keep track of the sun and shade and where they stay the longest, and wonder if Repeat and Shortie would enjoy planting seeds with me.
You can't image how pleased I was when my dear SNL asked me about placing some hosta in the front of the house! We discussed whether there was too much sun there for too long and if so what else we'd enjoy there. He said he might go plant "looking" one day soon. Outwardly I tried to let him know I was interested in going without being too mother-in-law-ish. "If you don't mind...I'd love to go." pleeease! inside my brain was screaming "take me with you! I want to play!" I hope we go soon. I'd really like sharing this first love with him.
Monday, May 17, 2010
At the risk of sounding like an old woman... where exactly did the time go?
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and its turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When they might have won, had they stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.
Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor's cup;
And he learned too late when the night came down,
How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit!
My Dad gave me a copy of this poem when I was 10 years old. He was encouraging me to do my best and to not give up when things became difficult. Thank you Daddy! I miss you.
Monday, April 12, 2010
First I am tired of my look. I feel frumpy (I’m not) I feel that I look like somebody’s mother ( I am but without disparaging mother’s I know you know what I mean!) and I feel like it is impossible to change it.
Second – I am continually puzzled by the number of women who are shorter, taller, rounder, much rounder older younger than I am who are dressed in current fashion and look good! What is the problem with me and my body that I can’t look better or as least as good as I’d like to look?
Third – I recently returned to my regular viewing routine of TLC’s What Not to Wear. Every person they feature ends up looking great! Now you might say that 5000 dollars and the help of Stacy and Clinton could make anyone look better but I really don’t believe it is the money as much as the “rules”—but I digress.
Armed with these three points banging around in my head and the seduction of a wonderfully warm spring day I headed off to the mall. To prevent feeling overwhelmed I gave myself instructions to look for only one outfit—a pair of pants and a top or two to go with them – and maybe one of those cute waist length jackets in denim or twill.
So I’m strong and I ready and what do I find? … that I am still short! (If anything about my body had to change, couldn’t it have been my height instead of my weight?)
I am willing to have my clothes altered but these pants were so long, alterations would totally change the style and shape! And when? When did I get too round for Misses? So/ what? I have to go to Women’s? NO! I’m not that grown (read – OLD) yet!
Refusing to be deterred I sheepishly enter the Women’s department. The first size is 1X. Really? I didn’t think I’d gained that much weight – but off to the fitting room I went with 1X tops and 14W and 16W jeans and pants. I was pleased to see that Women sized jeans recognized my body! Meaning that I have fuller curves than I did and providing more ease and contours in the places I now need them without making me look like I will soon be attacked by Stacy and Clinton. I was feeling better…right up until I tried on the tops. I went from I could work this –to- a candidate model for tentmakers. The tops squared me out; frumped me up; made me shorter, older, wider, -- why not just go home and wear what I had?!!! Fortunately I stopped myself. Put the tops back and purchased the jeans only.
My counter strategy is to pull out my summer clothes, try on the tops, get rid of any that I can’t wear for whatever reason and go back out into the danger zone next weekend. Wish me luck!
Monday, March 29, 2010
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
I MOVED! I was offered a job which I accepted. I was notified on January 15 to begin on February 1st! Yes I know just two weeks!. I seriously tried to have the start date be March 1 but they basically said "no". So I tidied things at work ( which meant working hard and long for three days); then got really busy packing my house. That was indeed a monstrous task.
I left home on January 30th and drove straight into a snow storm. It took me four hours to make a 2hr and 15 min trip! I brought essentials but of course you always end up needing things that you didn't expect to need, so the first two weeks were fairly disconcerting.
The movers came on February 13th and delivered on Sunday so I had the holiday (President's Day) to unpack.
The first week on the job was "interesting". Lots of paper work, ID distribution, fingerprinting, desk assignments, meeting training supervisors. I will be in training for about 4 months. I have learned the metro at least for the two places that I have to get to from home.
The second weekend (Feb 7th to be exact) we were snowed in - seriously...snow, snow and more SNOW!The snow started around 10AM Friday and continued until late Saturday. I don't think I've ever been so happy to see a Friday and be snowed in!
I am still unpacking boxes. However, I can find the bed and my underwear so I think I'm making progress. ;-) Despite the challenges (which I will recount in another post) I am happy to be here. I get to see the boys everyday--even though on Sunday afternoons I still begin to gather my things and put them by the door to "leave"!