Press on! Press Through!

One of the things that scholars do when they read the Bible is ask questions. Many of the questions address the societal rules of Biblical times. This is an important thing to consider when we read, as it helps us better appreciate the impact of passages and how radical Jesus was and why the leadership reacted against him so strongly.

Some of these rules and certainly the radical nature of Jesus’ ministry runs through the passage I’ve selected for tonight. In biblical times women did not go pressing though crowds. Actually women did not gather in the same space as men and they certainly did not touch men particularly rabbis.
And if their “issue of blood” meant they were menstruating, then they certainly weren’t out because this meant they were unclean and they were to be removed from the group until they had a ritual cleansing and waited seven days after that.

Tonight’s passage generates a lot of questions and discussion much of which fascinates me. Some questions that jump immediately to mind are: was she unclean; had she been ostracized all those years; and the question I’d like to add to the mix is why does Jesus only feel her touch and no one elses? He was in a crowds after all. Can’t we think that others had illnesses, pains and disease?
The discussions also consider: what the bleeding was; why she couldn’t be cured; did the doctors con her or were they just baffled. All three gospels tell this story – they are parallel passages. Luke’s account seems kinder to the doctors and Matthew’s is sketchy on the details.

I am also fascinated by the challenge that women commentators add to the discussion. One important question they ask is: why have we made the assumption that the bleeding was menstrual ? Mark says the illness made her bleed. The others say she hemorrhaged. Women can’t bleed elsewhere? From the nose perhaps? Of course, if she were bleeding from nose or some other place, then all the discussion about purity codes, being considered unclean, marginalized and ostracized won’t fit. But I ask you if she wasn’t unclean and hadn’t been ostracized does this make her decision to press through the crowd less bold? Less dramatic?
The gospels tell us that the bleeding stopped when she touched Jesus and many of us focus on this healing... tonight though I want to point out that Jesus squarely places the focus on her faith.
Jesus’ acknowledgement of The woman’s faith in pressing through the crowd to touch his garment resembles very much when Jesus acknowledges the faith of the friends who pressed through to bring the paralytic to Jesus in earlier in Mark[1]. In both stories it was the faith, the pressing through that Jesus recognized and acknowledged, the healing was almost an afterthought.

I stop here to tell you what I am not saying. I am not saying that more faith equals more healing or even that faith is what will get you healed. And I am also not saying that less faith equals no healing either. What I am saying is that in this passage and elsewhere in the Bible what I see Jesus emphasizing is the faith and not so much what happens because of it.
Possibly then and certainly now, we humans want answers. We want to believe and receive. We want to decide how things should go and we want things clear and neat.
But life is not like this. We all know of wicked people living good lives and of good people living difficult lives and every combination in between.
Much like this woman we have torments and trials. We each have hearts with unaddressed desires. We also have waited. We also have paid and we also have prayed without ceasing only to look up and see another day pass without what we request.
Yet throughout the Bible we have evidence that we do not always receive our answers when we would like and in the manner we would like. I can say with some certainty that Abraham was likely more than a little puzzled as the years passed and he and Sarah still did not have an heir. The Bible tells us that the Israelites had been crying out for decades, before Moses was sent to lead them out of Egypt.
But truly we don’t even have to look back that far because many of us right here and right now have long histories of suffering from which we seek relief. Each of us I believe has something we want and need to be different, better, relieved, fixed, acknowledged, improved, healed.
We focus on the relief, the healing because that is what we need and that is what we want. Certainly,.we do. I do. But to me in this passage and others the focus is faith.

The focus is faith when we read in Hebrews chapter eleven about the great cloud of witnesses who are commended for their faith but did not receive in their lifetime what was promised.[2]
The focus is faith when we consider that in the 1800s Jarena Lee, the first African American female preacher in the AME church, walked 28 thousand miles to preach between Cape May and Canada. She was beaten and ignored... but pressed on.
The focus is faith when, even though Fannie Lou Hamer[3] was “sick and tired of being sick and tired” ...she pressed on.
The focus is faith when despite being in the midst of extreme poverty and plagued with her own questions and doubts Mother Teresa... pressed on.
The focus is faith when Coretta Scott King after the assassination of her husband... pressed on.
The focus is faith when any of us in the midst our struggles, presses on.

I do not know why so many suffer. I don’t know why any of us suffer. This will be one of the questions on my list to present to God when we meet. What I do know, what I have experienced, what is evident to me in the text and in a life lived long enough to look back, is that Jesus honors our faith however small. I believe there is a God. One who has revealed through Jesus. Some days like some of you my faith is large and some days like some of you it is just enough to press on. But this I know. This I believe. Jesus loves us.
I’m going to sum up what I’ve said by changing the words to a children’s Sunday School Song. And no I’m not singing it.

Jesus loves you this I know
Because my life has showed me so
Jesus loves you I cannot say
Why all suffering does not go away
Jesus loves this is true
Your faith is honored press on, press through!

Amen!

[1] Mark 2:5
[2] Hebrews 11:39-40 “Yet all these, though they were commended for their faith, did not receive what was promised, 40since God had provided something better so that they would not, apart from us, be made perfect.
[3] American voting rights activist and civil rights leader

Preached - 6PM March 22, 2009 Broad Street Ministry, Philadelphia, PA
Sermonic Text: Mark 5: 25-34

YAY!!! It's March!

I'm really glad it's March. Yes I'm glad for all the obvious reasons --winter is almost over; spring is around the corner; Repeat's birthday is in two weeks ...so is mine for that matter--these are all good reasons for me to be joyful that it is now the month of March. However, I have another reason to be glad it's March. ...I'm glad it's March because it means I've survived February! Whew!!! every year February is truly a mine field. a danger zone. the longest most hateful month of my life to that point. February taunts me. Eighty percent of the traumatic events of my life occurred in February (or some high percentage... do we really keep track!?)

I remember some years ago mentioning this to a friend of mine who was deep, deep, deep into astrology. She told me that 45-60 days before your birthday is an extremely tumultuous time....from the womb forward. In the womb she stated, the most growth and change is happening during those days and this growth-change cycle is repeated in our lives. Makes sense I suppose.

This year I kinda forgot about all this. In January I cautioned myself and then February hit. I was consumed with dissatisfaction. I complained and screamed out. Every morning (and I do mean every morning) I had to talk myself out of quitting my job. Seriously? What intelligent self respecting, don't-have-a-rich-uncle or a sugar daddy woman would do such a thing?! Yet there I was daily praying myself out of being stupid!

Now don't get me wrong. I do need to find another job. One that is fulfilling and meaningful and uses my skills and education. But I do not need to leave the one job I have before I find this meaningful, soul-stirring other job!

Even as the days and weeks marched toward March, I worried about being depressed. What was wrong with me? I promised myself that if it didn't stop soon I'd make an appointment with a counselor of some sort. Until then, I fell asleep each night promising myself to be more positive, to get through the next day without burdening family and friends with my anguish.

Sunday ( March 1st) I woke up and I felt better. Weird because I felt a LOT better! I made it through two conversations without maligning my job. (let's not completely overlook the fact that my daughter and a friend found two jobs that might be great for me!)
I'm happier. Monday I took a SNOW DAY!!! and got so much done I was a little scared of myself! The sun is higher in the sky ...the days are longer ( don''t forget to SPRING forward on Sunday March 8th), the forever lasting month of February is over!

I'm sure some of you may be thinking that I am possibly a victim of Seasonal Affect Disorder (SAD) ...possibly...but for now I am pass the Season of February and I am sooooooooooo glad!

On the Cusp

Generally "on the cusp" is a phrase used in astrology to signify a person born between two signs - the shared date of one astrological sign ending and another beginning. But lately I've been feeling very "on the cusp" in another way. I'm beginning to realize that there is a certain amount of schizophrenia among those of us who were born at a time when women were insisting that their roles change.

I was born on the edge, on the cusp of roles changing from hubby and housework; babies and bath water and to hubby, corporate work, babies ( maybe) and housework (well only if we couldn't get someone else to do it!)

I think this has not only affected me but many others near my age. What side of the cusp did you fall on? and can we relate to people who fell on , stayed on, never-considered-moving-from the other side? There are people my age who can't email, text, enter numbers in their cell. And then there are people who understand that women can choose, chase, chance.

The way I see it being on the cusp has made me flexible and open ( well at least to most things). I've kinda had to be. The times they were so a'changing when I was coming up and yet I noticed one day that I just won't order my coffee in the new language. I just won't. I finally know which is which when asked Venti, Grande, Tall ( what? they ran out of a foreign word for "small"?!)
But I'm just not doing it! When I want a Large that is what I'll ask for. Large medium, small... size differentiations that have not changed for centuries. But even as I write it does it make me sound old? inflexible? Is it rigid to draw the line somewhere? Gees...even if I do submit to a Venti Verona with room for cream, I can only order that in one place. The other places call it something else. So isn't it best to keep it the same? Small Medium Large. Everyone knows what that is. Everyone knows what you mean. Okay so that's it! That's my line! I may have changed from floppy disk to flashdrive; I may now email instead of snail mail; text instead of type; blog instead of journal... but I will not ask for a Venti. I will not!

Anger

This morning I invite you into a discussion of Anger. I decided that we need to begin an exploration on this topic when I noticed that many people do not seem to realize that just because we love Jesus doesn’t mean we automatically know how to love each other
I know that we would all agreed that the commandment from Jesus recorded in John chapter 15 verse 12 that, we love one another he has loved us is a wonderful concept. It sounds fine on paper and seems to work well right up until we actually meet one another. Then we find that what works in theory is quite difficult to put in practice. Yet we know that we are to figure it out because we have been commanded to…but how?How do we figure it out? How does it actually work out in our everyday lives? What is the balance? What is a healthy expression of anger in the church community?

These are some excellent questions that we as a Christian community must explore together. We must learn how to be angry how to hate the sin but not the sinner; To stop the wrongdoing without murdering the wrongdoer. I could go on but let me stop and tell you something you already know…This topic is huge! There are many different areas and avenues to travel. We have the notion of righteous or compassionate anger that is often necessary for Christians to “proclaim release to the captives” and “let the oppressed go free”[1]

But I’ve decided against addressing that today. That would be too easy. And would not get us to working on the hard parts – you know how we always had to eat our greens first. Supposedly made us appreciate the tastier parts of the dinner. We have whether or not we can be angry...yes I’m going to discuss that. We have whether or not anger is bad ...Yes I’m going to address that. Whether or not anger is dangerous ...yes I’m addressing that and I am even going to touch on how to handle anger. But at another time on another day I am going to come back to this topic again. Amen?


So let’s get started. Much of what I read about anger started off with some sort of acknowledgement that anger exists. In some of these same books several chapters were written before they even got into what anger was exactly. By the time I stopped myself from pulling books off the shelf I had fifteen books ranging from Anger as a spiritual ally to one entitled It’s the Little Things which explored the everyday interactions that anger and divide the races. And believe me there were plenty more books left on that shelf !!! Other books had extensive chapters on why people get angry,how to control it, if it is good or bad. There was One book in the anger section about forgiveness and even though this book had several chapters on anger for a minute I thought it was on the wrong shelf then I thought I guess if you are struggling with the need to forgive then you must be angry about something

One of my favorites however was the book that included an Anger Inventory. Twenty–five questions that you rated on a scale from zero which meant you would feel very little or no annoyance to four which meant that you would feel very angry. At the end you added the numbers and depending on where you ended up you were either remarkably low on the anger scale and were told that you were among an extremely select few or you were unbelievably high on the anger scale and only a few percent of the adult population reacted as intensely as this about anything!From this I decided that most of us fell somewhere in between.I figured that we were in the average to substantially more than average range. Not extremely peaceful but not a raving lunatic either! But despite the fact that I learned that most of us fell in the range of “normal” I still believe that many of us are not happy during those times when our anger skyrockets out of control or we when find ourselves puzzled by our reactions to things that should fall in the “little to no annoyance” category. So before I go further let’s decide on a common definition of anger. Let’s agree on a few things that none of us needs to read a book to know. Anger is a fact of life. Anger is human. Anger is an emotion and a very powerful one.
I will add that in many instances Anger frightens us or should I correct and say the inappropriate display of anger...The blind rage ...the lack of control...our own and someone else’s frightens us.
I will suggest that anger is everyone’s problem. Even if you are one of the few people on earth
who never gets angry you are most likely not one of the few who has never experienced someone else’s anger directly or indirectly. Anger particularly in its varied and inappropriate manifestations your own or someone else’s is a problem for all of us. One common feature that most social scientists acknowledge about anger is that anger occurs when we feel threatened. I personally had to ponder that for a while but hear me out these social scientists suggest that when anger occurs two things are present a person and a threat.[2]

Allow me to elaborate these threats may be to our physical self reckless drivers, burglars, cancer to our social or extended self people, ideas things or to our self esteem our value system, sense of respect our ideal selves. Basically when some part of our total self experiences a threat real or imagined we feel anger. I emphasize “feel” here. In all of this I join many social scientists, commentators, and others when I say that as an emotion, anger in and of itself, is neither good nor bad. The problem is not the experience of the feeling at least not at first. The problem with anger is the direction that it could lead us. Or more accurately the direction we allow our anger to take us.[3] Too often when we think of or discuss anger the appropriate human feeling of anger gets twisted and blended with the inappropriate expression of it such as aggression, violence and vengeance. This may come from how we were raised or how we came to understand the story of Cain and Abel in Genesis chapter four. Some of us came to understand the story to mean that it was wrong to be angry at all and particularly at God. But reading the story again we might see that the issue was not that Cain had become angry but that in being angry Cain was more vulnerable to the wrong expression of it.[4] So Proverbs chapter 29 verse11 is right to tell us That it is a fool who gives full vent to anger[5] that we should do as Psalm 37 verse 8 instructs us and forsake wrath and not fret or obsess because it will only lead to evil[6] but keep in mind that it is the “Full vent” that makes us fools not the anger. Almost as often in the discussion of anger we forget about a different expression of anger which is also inappropriate. This form of expression comes out of our correct decision that busting up the room is bad which it is and that any feeling of anger is bad which it isn’t and so we push, shove and squish the anger way down in our selves. Now maybe at first this “pushing down” was for good reasons maybe it was the wrong time to deal with it the wrong person the wrong place Okay but then what has happened? Now it has been suppressed so long that we end up at the very least passive aggressive unwilling or unable to address the root anger we become snipers, nitpickers, sarcastic. Or we display smiles that aren’t happy or become depressed which is anger turned inward. Frankly suppressed anger is dead weight. It prevents us from moving forward and cripples our relationships not only with those with whom we are angry but with all those we interact with in our community. Work can’t get done. Projects are stalled. Committees are fighting about snow removal when really someone or several some ones are angry about some other unresolved thing.

We wrongly think we are being “nice” or appropriate by not discussing it. We wrongly think that it is over because it has been so long. And yet, we find ourselves counting each new slight in a way that turns true molehills into Mt. Kilimanjaro! We wrongly think that as long as we keep
the imaginary mountain to ourselves that we are doing ourselves, the person with whom we are angry and the community a favor. Aren’t we grand? Aren’t we great not to bring it up? Not to cause disruption? When in fact our blood pressures are up, and we experience the anger anew every time we see the person. This is the fretting referred to in Psalm 37 and what we call festering and this is not good! Now don’t get me wrong anger is dangerous because in being angry we are much more likely to act in ways that are destructive[7] to others and to ourselves. Cain did murder Abel.

We live in a society that believes that “pay back” is appropriate; especially if we didn’t “start” it if we didn’t start it we wrongly believe we have a “right” to finish it. We cheer Rambo in First Blood which is a euphemism for “they started it”. We live in a city which at one point
had the highest murder rate in the nation. And the statistics of these murders suggested that
the murders stemmed from difficult interpersonal relationships, And were not random but more likely the horrible end result of poor expressions of anger. Excuse me?
Are we being told and more importantly are we believing that we should feel safe in a world where we have less to fear from strangers than from those who know and love us? Now murder is certainly the most horrendous outcome of poorly managed anger, but we cannot get comfortable thinking “well at least I’ve never murdered anyone”Because we are not exempt We are not off the hook from addressing our anger just because we never murdered anyone! Much of the way we behave has anger at its root and we don’t end up looking very good or smelling quite so sweet. It’s not murder but we fume at other drivers for making the same dangerous move that we have made at some point. We say hurtful things just audible enough to be heard but not so loud that we don’t have plausible deniability We malign people who have angered us and spend endless hours doing it with no plans of ever addressing the person or the issue.


In a book entitled Creative Anger the authors explore a seven step method born from years of their research. The acronym RETHINK lists skills that they assert and I’ll quote here: RETHINK skills “will assure creative outcomes will enrich relationships, resolve conflicts and contribute to physical and emotional health[8] According to the authors when we RETHINK[9]
R— we recognize our anger and what triggers it
E— we empathize with the other person meaning listening with our heart
T— we think about the situation –reframe it if necessary
H— we Hear what the other person is communicating verbally and non verbally
I— we Integrate respect with our responses
N— we Notice how our body reacts to being angry and we Notice how to calm ourselves
K— we Keep our attention on the present problem

I am aware that even with a formula handling anger is not easy and it is not something that can be corrected over night or in one sermon. Much of our new life in Christ is like this.
Our life in Christ is a life long pursuit. Sometimes we get it right. Sometimes we get it wrong
and sometimes we just don’t “get it”. But I assert that learning about and coming to understand our own anger falls into the category of something we can “get”. How and when we express ourselves about our anger is our choice and within our control. What we decide pushes our buttons is also under our control. We may not be able to control who pushes the buttons, but can decide how we behave when our buttons get pushed.

What God meant in Genesis chapter four and what the author of Ephesians meant is that dangerous though anger can be it does not have to be. In both of these examples being angry is not the problem letting anger get this best of us, as it did Cain, not being careful to avoid vengeance, getting even, wishing or planning the destruction and demise of someone else or letting the sun go down or as we would say fester. This is a problem. This is the problem.
We “sin” not in being angry but in what happens because we are angry. The “sin” is either in our expression as with Cain murdering his brother or it is in our lack of expression
pretending we don’t have any anger ignoring it or harboring it and then becoming bitter, slanderous and full of malice. Our struggle as followers of Christ is how do we acknowledge the reality of anger and find loving and timely expression of it our Christian community.
The author of Ephesians in chapter four verse twenty-six allows for our anger but not for a lack of resolution. Indulging anger either by murderous expression or by letting it fester under the surface of our relationships[11] is what the author of Ephesians considers sinful. This is a task for each of us to undertake. Whether we decide to truly let it go or find an appropriate healthy and helpful way to address it we are to get rid of it and as soon as possible. Learning a careful, considerate, thoughtful expression of anger is good for each of us as individuals and is good for our community.

Amen!

[1] Luke 4:18
[2] Coping With Anger – A Christian Guide - Andrew Lester p19
[3] Anger is a Choice - Tim LaHaye and Bob Phillips p 14
[4] Anger – Discovering your Spiritual Ally – Andrew Lester p 32
[5] Proverbs 29:11 A fool gives full vent to anger, but the wise quietly holds it back.
[6] Psalm 37:8 Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath. Do not fret—it leads only to evil.
[7] Anger – Discovering your Spiritual Ally – Andrew Lester p 32
[8] Creative Anger – putting that Powerful Emotion to Good Use – Rhoda Baruch, Edith Grothberg, Suzanne Stutman
[9] Creative Anger – putting that Powerful Emotion to Good Use – Rhoda Baruch, Edith Grothberg, Suzanne Stutman
[10] Creative Anger – putting that Powerful Emotion to Good Use – Rhoda Baruch, Edith Grothberg, Suzanne Stutman
[11] Ephesians God Calls a New People – A Study Guide - David B. Howell



Anger
Sermonic Text: Genesis 4:1-8; New Testament Text: Ephesians 4:26; 31-32
Preached February 15, 2009 - Yeadon Presbyterian Church – Philadelphia, PA